Why not be discreet about it and say nothing? Why bring it to my attention by text? It’s thoughtless at best, cruel at worst.

Dear Miss Manners: When sharing stories, anecdotes or facts in conversation, I usually cite my source. For example, I might say, “I recently read an op-ed in (newspaper) by (author) where they said …”

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am 70 years old, and have had a cordial, if not close, relationship with my 58-year-old brother all our lives. Recently he texted me a screenshot of a map of my neighborhood. I texted back, “Huh?” He answered, “I’m across the street from your building.” I replied, “I didn’t know you were in town.”