Because a couple of your friends made the ask, as opposed to one, it’s a good idea to talk about it one-on-one outside of the Christmas season. You can acknowledge that you had mixed emotions about turning down the requests and also give them some insight into the way you’re thinking about your Christmas dinner.

Christmas is a very difficult time for me, and I typically don’t celebrate as I don’t have any close family, and it only brings back painful memories.

Letter writer feels bad for rejecting day-of plus one requests to chosen family Christmas dinner.

Christmas is a very difficult time for me, and I typically don’t celebrate as I don’t have any close family, and it only brings back painful memories. I moved a couple years ago and found a very great group of friends that have quickly become my chosen family.

"This past one, a couple of my friends asked if they could bring a friend or two … or three the day of the dinner."